Pondering a bit of a dark question

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Sitting here this morning watching the sun come up more or less. My mind flashed back to a funeral I attended a couple months back. The gal that passed was a nurse and a casual acquaintance from my biker days, she rode a sporty and was always smiling and joking about something. I walked in to the funeral home and met a few gray beards I rode with, and went to pay respects to her family, like I said we were not close but still a friend. Now bear with me if you will.
On her casket was a folded flag, and a picture from maybe 1969 of her in an army uniform with nurse pin on her lapel. After speaking to her oldest daughter I found out she was a combat nurse in SE Asia and did 2 tours in late 69, 70, and 71. She never spoke of her time in country or what she saw and had to do, the guys she rode with never saw this side of her either. And through all this a lap top was in the hall way, playing her favorite songs and showing pictures of her time in SE Asia. Music that brought back memories not so the young folks there, but to us gray beards that been there and had a chance to met some of these angels. I had to move away but I saw more than one wet eye as we watched, and said good by to a Lady none of us really knew. So I ask, when you go to met your God, would you leave something like that behind to let people know and understand your brief life on this earth. Like I said a bit dark but still something to ponder.
 
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Well, I am a proud American veteran, and I CARE. I too was in the Nam in 1969 serving with the Navy Seabees. The lady you spoke of was a special person for sure and I'm glad you had the privilege to know her.
 
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I'd have teared up myself.

I was never closer to Viet Nam than Japan and I never did anything even remotely dangerous in my Navy career. Pretty much everything I did or worked with has been obsolete for decades so I can safely say nobody gives a rat about my Navy experiences.

As for a "final goodbye" my instructions to my survivors are that I don't even need/want an obituary: Them that care will already know and them that don't know won't care anyway. But do whatever works for you because I'm going to be dead and won't know or care.
 
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So I ask, when you go to met your God, would you leave something like that behind to let people know and understand your brief life on this earth. Like I said a bit dark but still something to ponder.
I absolutely would. Spent a tour in Vietnam myself and 50+ years later there's a lot of things I still just can't talk about. Still can't go to Veteran's Day parades, things like that. So maybe a display like that - mementos I haven't been able to share while still living - would give those who come to the funeral/memorial an inkling as to why I was the way I was.
 
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no one will care, so there's no point.
Sad to feel like that my friend, the young wont understand or care, those that were there would, and we are a dyeing breed.
And welcome home just incase no one ever told you
 
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I'd share it, but it is a personal choice.

I have a couple small accolades hidden away in a drawer. Nothing major. I'm sure my family that knows, will share it. My past professional associates will share it.

The emotional impact, at an emotional moment such as a memorial service can't hurt. For the sake of the family.

Stoic and humble is key... I am still trying to be both.
 
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Two important pieces of scripture come to mind here. And we are taught through scripture not to mourn as do the rest who have no hope. That's found in Thessalonians 4.

When one has this understanding, they may be happy and rejoice that their friend, loved one, whomever is now alive more than ever because they're with The Lord.

As for the body of the one who has passed, well Jesus said it best in Luke 9 and Matthew 8,"Let the dead, bury their own dead." Gotta keep your eyes up!

I pray that each and every one of my brothers on here is at peace and exactly where they want to be on whatever spiritual walk they may be on.

***We are saved by grace through faith***

Brandon
 
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no one will care, so there's no point.
Maybe so. Maybe not. For example example, if you Leave something personal about you for your descendants to learn about, it might mean something to them. Or it might not. Who knows. But I do think there is a point…
 
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Well, I am a proud American veteran, and I CARE. I too was in the Nam in 1969 serving with the Navy Seabees. The lady you spoke of was a special person for sure and I'm glad you had the privilege to know her.
I spent a year in Southeast during 67-68 and I agree with you for sure!

edit: I will also add, as a vet, that I’m not so proud of the way that our country has acted military some the times in the past, after the Second World War, where so many young Americans ended up dead or crippled for what was probably political reasons…

And NO, I’m not a leftist radical, at least I don’t think so…
 
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I was not a veteran of any service. But as a teen bagging groceries at a local store in the 70's, I saw men with serious issues come in that had been in Vietnam. Some mental issues, some physical issues and one guy had been sprayed with chemicals i was told. All local men with very short lives. As a teen most were shocking to see or the behavior they had. As I got older and looked back I was able to realize just slightly what had happened to each.
Other men I had met in my life that served there said very little or would not talk Vietnam at all.
God Bless thoses who served and bless thoses who protect us now.
My dad was a proud Seabee who went to pearl harbor to help with the clean up.
 
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