I'll second what
@TheOldHokie said, they tend to press against each other just fine and despite a few small differences "it works."
The differences are pin are able to flow more fluid due to their concave shape, and they tend to seal better and not leak after being disconnected. Ball tend to leak fluid past the ball when disconnected and therefore shouldn't suffer hydraulic lock when the temperature changes, as far as I understand it, and if they do lock up ya smack them with wood and it's all good.
My big balls are new and shiny so they didn't leak for as much use as they got (which is virtually none), and a few of the well-used pins I inherited spray like an excited puppy, so don't take the previous "how things are intended to work" paragraph as "how things actually work."