Additionally to Dave's post....
First thing, ensure 3pt is down on the ground in float mode or similar so that there is no chance the 3pt is using or relieving any fluid.
Test the function of the boom lift now. If there is an improvement then it's likely the 3pt is going too high and relieving when it's up. (adjustment required)
Is the curl function slow as well?
One of the most common faults for slow loader operation is a faulty quick connect valve. Ensure no residual pressure exists in any line before inspection.
While you have cleaned them, make sure you operate each valve (male & female valves) individually and ensure they are fully seated when you replace them. You may be able to temporarily swap boom and curl functions to see if the problem changes to the other cylinders.
You may have some debris in the quick connects themselves, you can generally unscrew them and check them.
Sometimes when a loader is fitted it is tapped off a control valve which directs the oil to the 3pt, so now it flows out a different port to the loader before returning to the 3pt circuit. This valve could also be faulty, or have the valve rotated the wrong way.
Do you have remotes fitted? Where is the loader tapped from? Is it tapped from the remote valve?
If you have remotes ensure they are properly centered.
Some loader spool valves have a relief valve built in, also your spool could also be bypassing internally, if you are going to pull the spool valve I would buy a full oring/seal kit for it and replace everything while you have it apart.
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